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Who is the love of your life?

Who is the love of your life?He’s your kindred spirit. Your soul mate. That is, he’s compatible with your personality, worldview, and your passions. He offers you understanding, acceptance, and being valued. Out of this whole world he’s chosen you. Only you. Such emotional power.
Then it happens. You meet a guy. You like him. You think you love him. But you’re not sure. You’ve never really been in love before. You don’t know what to expect. But you know that choosing him means you eliminate one supreme life pursuit. Life’s simplified, in that arena anyway. You open your door to him and close it to all others. This is no trifling matter.
Of course, reading this article won’t insure your absolute success in finding the love of your life. But you might discover the one next step for you to take. . .or pick up an idea or plan that never occurred to you before. That’s why it’s worth your reading. Or give it to a friend who’s looking for the love of her life.

WHAT’S YOUR MOTIVE?

That sharp stab of first love. Oh, the marvel. And also the utter misery. Why do you want the pain of passion?
Okay, you don’t like being alone. You see yourself as a single in a two-some world. You feel there’s a congenial counterpart out there. Somewhere. When you connect, you’ll feel at peace, whole, fulfilled. But are you sure you’re ready to find the love of your life?
For instance, do you know who you are yet and what you’re meant to be? If not, how much beyond the first flush of the feelings of ‘being in love’ do you need to see before you know this could make a compatible lifetime match? It’s dicey to leap before you take an informed, hard look. You’ve got this one life. Make your love count. Not only for your happiness, but for his peace and those around you.
Every woman needs to receive love. And give love. “A woman becomes beautiful when she knows she’s loved”  A woman comes alive when she’s pursued. But don’t expect any man to be the center of your happiness. To meet your every need. To fulfill your deepest dreams. Only God can do that. You may not believe it now. But time, testing, and your tried faith will prove it to you.

It begins before the moment of contact.

What do you want in a life partner? It’s smart to think about that before the love hormone clogs your brain. Are you more likely to choose a guy who makes you feel good when you’re with him? Or one who fits into your goals and dreams for the future? The sooner you know what you cannot tolerate in a relationship, the better up front choice you’ll make. The ideal is to engage your mind before you give your heart.

Okay, the heart often snaps to attention first. And then filters everything you see and hear. Realists may say, those who wait for the mind to analyze before investing emotion. . .never marry. Because all boys need to grow up. And all men have flaws.But at the least, form a friendship. Define who he is and who you are. Discern what you foresee of your future. Deepen conversations. Develop shared activities. The intricate process of becoming friends, especially best friends, probes the depths of discovering a potential lifetime mate. Vigorous proof requires going through lots of stuff together.
Whom you choose. . .or don’t choose. . .frames your character, reveals your moral resolve, and sets your priorities.