Falling in Love

The first time i fell absolutely, violently, passionately in love  my senses were so heightened that one day we were walking through the park and i swear, i actually heard a leaf drop to the ground. pat lovell i know i am falling in love because i think of you and i turn hollow inside, and the world kind of veers  like it goes a little bit sideways for an instant. John d macdonald falling in love with love is falling for make-believe. lorenz hart – song romantic love ‘happens’; it is not brought about; one falls in love. the person is obsessed with the loved one and is unable to concentrate on anything else. the person loses all desire to remain independent, and instead desires to merge and subsume  into the other. margaret horton

you’ve been in love; you know what it’s like. it’s a sense of delight, not just in the person you love, but in all people, in yourself, in life. suddenly you see beauty, excitement everywhere. you’re not afraid to express your love: passionately, gently, in words, or in silence. and you feel strong, generous, fully alive.george weinberg… when i look on you a moment, then can i speak no more, but my tongue falls silent, and at once a delicate flame courses beneath my skin, and with my eyes i see nothing, and my ears hum, and a wet sweat bathes me, and a trembling seizes me all over sappho liza: wot’s it feel like, bein’ in love, kytie? katie: ow, it’s prime, liza. it’s like ‘avin ‘ot treacle runnin’ daown yer back. caption to late victorian punch cartoon one inevitable consequence of falling deeply in love is the realization that no one has yet adequately described the torment and ecstasy of your condition – and the knowledge that you will try and fail to do so. william jay smith love works miracles every day: such as weakening the strong, and strengthening the weak; making fools of the wise, and wise men of fools, favoring the passions, destroying reason, and, in a word, turning everything topsy-turvy. marguerite de valois everyone, naturally, wants love, but the real thing, when it arrives, is cruel, disconcerting, and frightening. one’s partner refuses merely to be an object, a thing, an impersonal presence, and demands one’s precious time, careful reflection, and emotional entanglement. michael noval i can see from your utter misery, from your eagerness to misunderstand each other, and from your thoroughly bad temper, that this is the real thing. peter ustinov love is like fever, it comes and goes without the will having any part in the process. henry beyle stendahl if love be good, from whence cometh my woe?

geoffrey chaucer there is no remedy for love but to love more.
henry david thoreau being in love is the gross exaggeration of the difference between one person and everybody else. george bernard shaw love is much nicer to be in than an automobile accident, a tight girdle, a higher tax bracket, or a holding pattern over philadelphia.
judith viorst love is  not a fact in nature of which we become aware, but rather a creation of the human imagination. joseph wood krutch love is the triumph of imagination over intelligence.
h l mencken love is like an hourglass, with the heart filling up as the brain empties.jules renard an infatuated young man was sending his girl friend a cable which read: “ozzy loves his woozy woozy woozy.” “you can have another “woozy” without it costing any more,” said the desk clerk. “no, thanks,” replied the young man. “i think that would sound rather silly.”
source unknow romantic love is mental illness. but it’s a pleasurable one. it’s a drug. it distorts reality, and that’s the point of it. it would be impossible to fall in love with someone that you really saw. fran lebowitz many a man has fallen in love with a girl in a light so dim he would not have chosen a suit by it. maurice chevalier love is much nicer to be in than an automobile accident, a tight girdle, a higher tax bracket or a holding pattern over philadelphia.
judith viorst a man is already halfway in love with any woman who listens to him.
brendan francis as soon as you cannot keep anything from a woman, you love her. paul geraldy you were young-but that is scarcely to your credit pretty – as one expects the young to be. and you were very much in love with me. and half i lured it on, and half i fled it, till honour turned its foolish face on mine taking for allies music and good wine - and told me what i ought to say: i said it. gerald gould – monogamy one doesn’t fall in love; one grows into love, and love grows in him. karl menninger the magic of first love is our ignorance that it can ever end. benjamin disraeli men always want to be a woman’s first love. that is their clumsy vanity. we women have a more subtle instinct about things. what we like is to be a man’s last romance.
oscar wilde - a woman of no importance there is hardly any activity, any enterprise, which is started with such tremendous hopes and expectations and yet which fails so regularly as love.
erich fromm falling in love is something you forget, like pain. nina bawden - the grain of truth to fall in love is to create a religion that has a fallible god. jorge luis borges - other inquisitions when a man’s in love he at once makes a pedestal of the ten commandments and stands on top of it with his arms akimbo. when a woman’s in love she doesn’t care two straws about thou shalt or thou shalt not. w somerset maugham - lady frederick

Box Full of Love

Some time ago a man punished his 5-year-old daughter for wasting a roll of expensive gold wrapping paper. Money was tight and he became even more upset when the child pasted the gold paper so as to decorate a box to put under the Christmas tree. Nevertheless, the little girl brought the gift box to her father the next morning and said, “This is for you, Daddy.”

The father was embarrassed by his earlier overreaction, but his anger flared again when he found the box was empty. He spoke to her in a harsh manner, “Don’t you know, young lady when you give someone a present there’s supposed to be something inside the package?”

The little girl looked up at him with tears in her eyes and said, “Oh, Daddy, it’s not empty - I blew kisses into it until it was full.” The father was crushed. He fell to his knees and put his arms around his little girl, and he begged her to forgive him for his unnecessary anger.

An accident took the life of this child only a short time later and it is told that the father kept that gold box by his bed for all the years of his life. And whenever he was discouraged or faced difficult problems he would open the box and take out an imaginary kiss and remember the love of the child who had put it there.

In a very real sense, each of us as human beings have been given a golden box filled with unconditional love and kisses from our children, family, friends and God. There is no more precious possession anyone could hold.

Your Name Meanings

Instructions : What u do is find out what each letter of your name means. Then connect all the meanings & it Describes you. [Its True & isn't it Great] If you have double or triple letters, just count the meaning once.

For Example : WONDOR

W = You like your privacy.
O = You are very open-minded.
N = You like to work, but you always want a break.
D = You have trouble trusting people.
O = You are very open-minded.
R = You are a social butterfly.

* A = You can be very quiet when you have something on your mind.
* B = You are always cautious when it comes to meeting newpeople .
* C = You definitely have a partier side in you, don’t be shy to show it.
* D = You have trouble trusting people.
* E = You are a very exciting person.
* F = Everyone loves you.
* G = You have excellent ways of viewing people.
* H = You are not judgmental.
* I = You are always smiling and making others smile.
* J =Jealously.
* K = You like to try new things.
* L = Love is something you deeply believe in.
* M = Success comes easily to you.
* N = You like to work, but you always want a break.
* O = You are very open-minded.
* P = You are very friendly and understanding.
* Q = You are a hypocrite.
* R = You are a social butterfly.
* S = You are very broad-minded.
* T = You have an attitude, a big one.
* U = You feel like you have to equal up to people’s standards.
* V = You have a very good physique and looks.
* W = You like your privacy.
* X =You never let people tell you what to do.
* Y = You cause a lot of trouble.
* Z = You’re always fighting with someone.

Problems in Love Relationships

Problems can creep in when we start to have thoughts of “do I love him more than he loves me?” We start examining all the things we do for our lover. All the ways we express our love and how much time and energy we’re putting into the relationship. Then we try to figure out if our lover is giving an equal amount back. If we perceive a discrepancy in that balance sheet, we start to back away from the relationship. We don't want to love more than they love. We become fearful that if we love them more than they love us, we might be played for a fool. 

Useful Questions:

Focus on how you feel when YOU are loving. Does loving someone feel good regardless if it’s returned? 

Is your loving someone conditional on them loving you back? If so, why? 

Do you feel loved when your partner isn’t around? If not, why not? Do you accept yourself, appreciate your qualities? 

Are you doing things for your lover that you really don't want to do, but feel you need to, to keep their love? 

Are you doing things for them, expecting something in return? 

What are you expecting?

And have you told them what that is? 

Have you talked to your partner about what things cause you to feel loved? 

(Don’t get caught up in “if they loved me, they’d know”, cause they don’t.) 

"We don't have anything in common anymore."

You love each other and that's why you got together in the first place, but you don't really seem to have much in common anymore. You’re into philosophy and art. They're into sports. You like books and going for walks, and she always wants to go sailing. But you tell yourself that marriage is a sacrifice. A give and take. You’ve been told you should put aside your own interests to make the relationship work. You have to compromise, right? But when you give up what you love for the sake of the relationship, you end up resenting the person and conclude you don't have anything in common.

If you had these differences when you fell in love, chances are it's not about having nothing in common, but not having the connection and intimacy you once had.

Useful Questions:

Has the amount of one-on-one time changed since you first met? 

Do you still share everything with your partner like you use to? 

What would happen if you did what you wanted, and they did what they wanted? 

How much time do you have to spend with your lover to feel you have a successful relationship?

How did you arrive at that amount?

What would it mean if you had separate interests? 

Do you see yourself and your partner as two separate people who choose to be together or do you feel some type of obligation? 

Do you believe “Love means to sacrifice.”? If so, why?